Sep 20, 2012

Happy Unanniversary

Well it's here. Today is my nine year wedding anniversary.  There will be no romantic dinner this year.  Having been separated for several months now, I was sort of dreading this day. 
But while all is not right, we have decided to slowly...very slowly, do some work and see. See if we can make things better.  I know I deserve better. I deserve more than the way it was.
And yes we've been down a similar road before.  But changes were made and many things did get better before.  So MAYBE, just maybe if we take a little more time, invest a little more and want it a little more, maybe it can be what we both deserve.
Only time will tell.  It's been a rollercoaster.  And I know some friends will be wishing I wasn't hopping back on.  But I can't bring myself to walk away, not without giving it one last chance.  
So we've opened the door. We've started talking.  We will be looking into therapy.  And we will be, at least for now, keeping the kids out of this as to not confuse them!

Have you gone through a separation? How did it turn out? Any insight for us?

8 comments:

  1. Don't just look into therapy. GO to therapy. Seriously. It may help your marriage or it may help you realize that the marriage isn't right, but it's so very helpful and illuminating if you are honest in your sessions.

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    1. Thanks, we do NEED to go. My only issue is time as we are currently working opposite schedules so we have to figure out something,

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  2. I'm glad you're at least trying. You don't want to wonder "what if"

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    1. This exactly it. Some of the changes I wanted have already happened...does that mean it'll stay that way...I don't know. But I feel like I owe it to myself, my kids and my marriage to give it chance.

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  3. Just wanted to offer you a hug! I hope you find a therapist that can you both talk to together and apart! Hugs!!

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  4. Yep, just went through my 15 year non-aversary. I already tried therapy, but hubby stopped going. Of course, the therapist couldn't believe that, after agreeing that we should try to make decisions together, he went out and bought my oldest son a $3000 scooter. Without discussing it with me. I'm much happier, but it's been hell on our son.

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  5. Good for you for opening the door and giving it one last shot. As Paula pointed out you don't want to wonder "what if?" especially with children involved!

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  6. Good for you for opening the door and giving it one last shot. As Paula pointed out you don't want to wonder "what if?" especially with children involved!

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